EDITOR’S NOTE: Did you know that even award-winning indie filmmakers and web series creators have personal lives? Well, you do now:
by Bri Castellini
Bri: Can I interview you for my blog?
Bri: It felt less self indulgent than asking you to do a podcast with me.
Quinn: Fair. What do you want to interview me about?
Bri: Our relationship.
Quinn: Oh jesus. [sees me typing] Taking this all down? Ok. [sound of trepidation]
Bri: Are you happy?
Quinn: Meh. Is anyone happy in 2016? I mean since 2016. Edit that.
Bri: No. [beat] I mean in our relationship, obviously.
Quinn: Yeah, of course.
Bri: Why of course?
Quinn: Because you’re great and I love you.
Bri: That’s not a reason.
Quinn: Yes it is. [beat] You shouldn’t do this right after I woke up. I’m needlessly mooney.
Quinn: Uuuuuuuuuhhh….. [pained look]
Bri: What would make you unhappy in our relationship? What would have to change for your feeling to change?
Quinn: I think if, um…. [long pause] I think if either of us were more inflexible it wouldn’t work as well. But as it is I think we both… we don’t take a lot too seriously. And if one of us is being silly usually the other one of us has the good humor to play along.
Bri: Give me an example.
Quinn: When I tell you to go fuck yourself, you laugh.
Quinn: Cuz you see it for what it is- me being a butt.
Bri: Can you give me a more real example?
Quinn: That is a lot of pressure.
Quinn: Cuz all the weirdos are gonna read this.
Bri: Like who?
Quinn: I dunno. Janine.
Bri: Tell them about Janine.
Quinn: [laughs] Janine is my other wife. Or, my other significant other. I can’t remember if we’re married-
Bri: You are.
Bri: Tell that story as you remember it.
Quinn: I don’t remember it! I hate this.
[fact check: Janine Janine is Quinn’s wife, the mother of his daughter Melissa Janine and currently pregnant with his unborn son Jean Janine.]
Bri: Tell me what you like about the stage we’re in in our relationship.
Quinn: Do we have to do this? If I was just telling you that’d be one thing. I don’t want to be on a blog.
Bri: Too bad. What’s one piece of advice you’d give another couple based on our relationship?
Quinn: I mean “communicate” is such a trope, but… Have a level of trust with that person that enables you to… how do I say this? [stressed out sigh] I’m trying to find a long-winded way of saying “don’t be an asshole to them. And if you are gonna be an asshole to them, make sure they know you’re joking and you’re willing to give it back.” That’s what I like about us, that we have a back and forth and I’ll never be as good at it as you but we both try.
Bri: I like that.
Quinn: I guess if I had to make it short- have good banter but also be excellent to one another…. you’re not actually gonna publish this are you? It’s absolute fucking drivel. It’s basically Ambien blogging.
[editor’s note: Ambien blogging is a reference to Rosanne Barr’s Ambien tweeting]
Bri: My advice is that you should be able to fart in front of each other.
Quinn: You know, in not so many words that’s what I was saying too. You gotta keep it cool and not hold your significant other to an unreasonable standard. People fart. They do gross shit. That’s just how it is. And they can do that and still be beautiful flowers of humankind also.
Bri: What’s the worst thing about dating me?
Quinn: I mean, you asking me to do this takes the cake 100%.
Bri: That feels like a good place to end this blog. I love you.
Quinn: Why do you do these things?
Bri Castellini is an indie filmmaker and Community Director at Stareable, our favorite web series hub. Watch the remarkable Ms. Castellini’s award-winning web series, Brains, HERE. See Sam And Pat Are Depressed HERE. This post first appeared on Bri’s wonderfully refreshing blog.