Five Lies That Could Be Ruining Your Career (and Your Life)

We all get it wrong sometimes. But if you catch your brain lying to you, you may be able to get out of your rut:

pinokeby Theresa Sullivan

We humans are really great at telling ourselves stories. That voice we hear in our head recites some pretty interesting narratives so often and so frequently that we really start believing them after awhile. These stories we keep thinking turn into our beliefs about ourselves, others and the world in general. They actually create our reality. The thing is, they only create our own reality, and there are as many different realities in this world as there are human beings. And that’s good, because it means the reality we live in isn’t already fixed – our thoughts have the power to change it every minute of our lives.

Day to day, I meet a lot of people’s stories. They sound a lot like “I don’t like my job, but it pays the bills”, “‘ This ‘following your passion’ stuff is B.S. But you can’t make any money at it”, “I don’t really have a passion for anything. Maybe if I did, I would do something else, but what’s the point?”, or “I’ve got a family that is counting on me, so I have no choice but to stick with this job I hate for now”. My guess is that you’ve heard these stories too. Perhaps one of them is even yours.

Though these stories may seem like very true statements to some people, they are, in fact, lies. Lies people tell themselves that keep them in jobs and careers and relationships that are bad for them. How can you tell they’re lies? Because lies keep us in situations that are bad for us. When we’re telling our truth, it feels good – it feels right. But it’s often easier to have a victim mentality that the cards have been dealt and whatever you’ve ended up with is all you’ll ever have, or that you really have no options left, except terrible ones, and everybody knows it. The stories we tell often start out as protection for our ego; they make us feel better about bad situations by pretending that things are out of our control or someone else’s fault and there is just nothing we can do about it. But then they spiral into excuses and beliefs that have the potential to ruin us.

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