What? We’re publishing important info on a Friday? Who’d a’thunk?
by Joni B. Cole
I’ve been leading writing workshops for over 20 years and am still gobsmacked by how stubbornly writers cling to certain myths that suck up a lot of emotional energy, and reinforce practices that undermine the creative process. If you buy into any of the myths below, let them go, and see how quickly you’ll write more, write better, and even be happier (because what writer isn’t happier when writing more and writing better).
1. The myth of the “real writer”
“I’m not a real writer.”
Why do so many aspiring authors feel as if there is some exclusive club to which we don’t belong? Of course, I get it. Writing lends itself to insecurity because our stories, real or imagined, matter to us. Otherwise, why would we take on this meaningful, albeit time-consuming and often payless effort. But who are we to lay claim to such a title, especially if—Let’s see, what are some of the reasons I’ve heard?
“I’m not a real writer because I’m not published.”
“…I’m 88 years old.”
“…My work isn’t literary.”
“…My spouse hates the way I write…”
Here is a reality check. You already are in the Club of Real Writers, assuming you are willing to put in the work of membership: writing; revising; accepting constructive criticism and praise; and pushing through rejection. And here is another reality check. Without the distraction of an identity crisis, you will commit more fully to doing what real writers do, which is believe you have something to say, and then figure out a way to communicate it on the page.
Exercise: Write down the reasons you’re not a real writer. Note: it is important that you put these reasons on paper. Why? Because seeing them in black and white will show you how ridiculous they are. When you are finished, write something, anything, as long as it is from the heart.
2. The myth of the suffering artist
So, you had a happy childhood. Get over it. I am kidding, of course. (Would that everyone grew up in a safe, loving environment!) But I am not kidding when I say that you don’t want to equate a lack of personal trauma to a lack of powerful story material….